Lessons learned from relationships

I'm taking a break from posting past blogs. Nakakatamad pala afer a while :D.

These are the lessons I've learned from my past relationships. I hope these stick to me even if and when I enter into a next one. These lessons are applicable to me, and I am not in any way imposing these lessons on others. :)

*Do not let a broken heart get in the way of what the rest of you can do.

*Your life is your life. Don't let anyone else decide on it.

*There are two kinds of "control": (a) the ones that are out of love and concern; and (b) ones that are out of ego and a sense of "owning" you. Appreciate the first kind. LEAVE once a guy imposes even just one of the second kind.

*Love=care and concern, but you don't have to be a nanny. He's a grownup and is supposed to be self-sufficient.

*NEVER be sorry for being successful EVEN while he's in the dumps. If he makes you feel sorry for it, LEAVE.

*HIERARCHY OF VALUES: Family, friends, boyfriend. RATIONALE: The first two groups have been there for you through ALL of your boyfriends. Boyfriends come and go. Even husbands come and go.

*Personality plus brains over looks. Looks should matter only insofar as improving the race. Hehe.

*"Mayaman" = has good earning capacity or potential, and is NOT = wealthy parents.

*Your boyfriend should be PART OF YOUR LIFE, you shouldn't create your own world.

*Yes, an exclusive "boyfriend time" is essential, but it shouldn't encroach upon the other things you need to do. (See last item)

*LISTEN to advice ESPECIALLY the ones from your family. They know you more than you realize.

*When the relationship has become more of a headache than of a good thing, it's time to end it.

*Whenever there's a problem, it shouldn't matter who takes the first step in solving it.

*There are two kinds of problems: (a)ones arising from something either of you did; and (b)ones arising from either of your personalities. As for the second kind, it is important to have an evaluation of whether or not "changing" is the right thing to do.

*It is absolutely necessary to be able to have ACTUAL CONVERSATIONS with you boyfriend. "Actual conversations" means conversations that are about things OTHER THAN your feelings for each other.

*Guys that make you prove, or worse, CONSTANTLY prove that you love them are total wusses and are a waste of time.